when everyone else is gettting ipads & smart phones & watching 3d tv, my household is reverting to the pre-indsutrial era.
it started when i freaked out at the kids a few days ago. the boys are going through a whiney/tantrum throwing/attention demanding toddler phase, & i had been listenting to nothing but whiney crying for days on end. N has been working non-stop long days, so i have been flying solo at home for quite a while. anyways-- all this resulted in my losing my temper, which is something i hate doing & try very hard not to do in front of anyone, let alone my kids. when N later asked what was wrong with me, i told him.
bc of our schedules lately, i feel like my husband has become a stranger. i feel isolated & alone, & i am not happy with the turn our relationship has taken.
N, being N, took this all super seriously & thought i was secretly planning a divorce & panicked. i had nothing of the sort in mind, i love my husband, i just want us to find some time to reconnect as a married couple instead of as business partners/roommates. he still feels happy & appreciated on a day to day basis, but i do not & i needed that to change.
anyways-- N has decided that part of our "reconnecting" should be technology-free time. the first night, we literally sat at opposite ends of the couch & stared at each other, giggling awkwardly, until we finally started talking. so far i think all it's showed me is that it's harder than you think to eliminate ALL media, even for just a few hours. i'm not really sure this is going to "fix" things for us(me), but it IS kind of interesting to see what happens when you shut everything down for a day.
so we're going to soldier on with our brief forays into the 19th century & see where it takes us. if i start spinning wool or churning butter, some one please send help!
It's so easy to feel more like business partners/roomates than a married couple. Especially with all the little ones in your house! Good luck with eliminating technology and reconnecting! Let us know how it works!
ReplyDeletei know several people that have "unplugged sundays". they any there families have no electronics other than cameras to capture the memories (sometimes). it is a great way to connecr to your spouse, kids and yourself.
ReplyDeleteand when doubt sets in, just look at those 3 whiney, clingy, snotty little cuties and know that they appreciate everything you do all the time. you are a rock star to them!!!
I think that's an awesome idea! I suspect my husband would pick up a book, though ... would that count as technology? :)
ReplyDeleteWe do a tech free day...kinda (Jeff is uber plugged in tho, so it's a little more difficult) but one day a week generally most of the day is no tv, no video games, i tend to stay off the pc...those are nice days, idon't know why I don't do them more often?
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