my life is uneventful lately. except conrad finally doing some scooting! it's like an inch-worm-- he tucks up his butt, then stretches with his arms. very cute :) i'm sure he'll be fully mobile soon, & then i'll be in trouble. & digger keeps having seizures. they don't seem to bother him, but they sure freak me out & i'm thinking he might need a vet trip soon. the CH (cerebellar hypoplaysia. it's like kitty cerebral palsy) isn't degenerative, so i doubt it's related, but the escalating frequency has me a little worried. & the birds need to go in for a nail trim, since miss scout is prone to foot problems as a legacy of her early months in her prior home.
in discussing tiger's infidelity recently with N, i've found out all kinds of things i didn't really want to know about people we know. it amazes me how many people cheat. especially people i like & respect(ed), who seem to have really happy families. cheating is pretty endemic is N's profession, as it was in the legal field (or at least, in the big firm world. i can't speak for other lawyers.) but it was an atmosphere i hated. it always made me feel like i was a party to their lying, especially when i knew their wives. (i know women cheat too, but if the women i knew were cheating, they were much more discreet about it.)
& i just don't buy the "sex addicition" excuse. bullsh*t. the average man doesn't get to use that excuse, so why is it valid for the rich & famous? & i think the reasons for cheating are probably as varied as the reasons for getting married. some are probably better than others, but is there ever a "good" reason to cheat? i doubt it. why then, why do people cheat? it's a debate N & i have been having for awhile now... what do you all think?
I agree there are probably many reasons. But for the most part I think it a combination of selfishness and poor impulse control.
ReplyDeleteHope your kitty is okay! Louie had a few seizures as a puppy so I understand how scary it is!
Yeah, the sex addiction doesn't normally fly with me.
ReplyDeleteWhy men cheat?? What an interesting topic - I will never understand. I do know that it doesn't seem to matter that they have a beautiful wife at home, or a loving wife at home. It's like they have some "need" that they need fulfilled. Now, why they can't get it fulfilled at home I will never understand.
i think it's something they don't get at home that impels them. maybe the "other woman" doesn't nag, appreciates their good qualities. maybe the wife doesn't put out. who can say? i'm not saying it's the fault of the wife, i'm saying most of the time, the marriage needs help, and cheating is a lot easier than facing that fact.
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